“I need to marry a man that’s rich”

This is my favourite song for real. I hear women go on about this and yes it makes sense. Who wants to marry a poor man right? But you know me, my thoughts always go beyond the surface, I can be like a dog with a bone when it comes to dissecting certain ideas and “laws of life.” So let’s get to cutting.

Now, is it wrong to desire riches? No. Is it wrong to desire a rich partner? No. “So what’s your problem?” I hear you scream. I’m getting there.

After being married for a year now, I’ve realised a few things; one of them being that money comes and goes. Sometimes the coming of what has gone can be quick, other times, not so much. So what happens then? Do you leave? Belittle the man who is supposed to be the provider?

Don’t get me wrong I like money. I didn’t come to this life to suffer, abeg! I like the clothes money can buy. The food money can buy. The enjoyment money can buy. When I got married, I was comfortable with the whole “my money becomes our money” because why not? More money init?

But I failed to take into account long term investments, doing up the house, bills (what’s with those) and so much more. We will reap the rewards in the future, our children, by the grace of God, will enjoy from it too but boy was I confused. I didn’t have the money I was used to having and was👏🏾 I 👏🏾vocal (thank God for loving husbands aye). I was short sighted. However, if I married my husband strictly because of money, as soon as discomfort came, I’d be out or wreaking havoc on his ego because that wasn’t what I signed up for.

It’s always important to know what you’re signing up for because when that thing is gone, your mind will make a clear cut case for why you should be gone too. If your husband loses his job, gets a pay cut, his business takes a hit, which wife will you be? The crown on his head or the thorn in his side?

Money is good but the love of it is clearly the root of all types of evil. Assess your relationship with money, be honest with yourself and renew your mind if necessary. You will make financial sacrifices, there is no doubt about it so let’s quickly sober up our minds. In a marriage you will have to renew your mind towards a lot of things daily (secondly even) and finances will definitely be in the top 5, so start now.